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Ami Evans: Posted on Thursday, February 16, 2012 1:12 PM
Sex is a popular topic of today. You cannot go a day without being influenced with sexual content. There is something powerful and mysterious about sex. I chose to watch a movie recently, called Friends with Benefits. I see so many people in my practice that are tied to others currently and/or from their past through premarital, extramarital, and sexual abuse experiences. I have a strong conviction to help these individuals understand their sexuality and the deception surrounding them. Though this movie goes against my belief system I decided I needed to understand the mindset and ramifications of the culture that believes casual, meaningless sex is ok. |
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Ami Evans: Posted on Saturday, January 28, 2012 2:19 PM
It has been some time since my last blog. I do not usually write unless I feel inspired to. Let's just say, it has been a blog drought. However, this past week has been significantly inspirational to me. Sometimes you need a drought to prepare you for the pouring rain.
Recently, I was given a book, Sun Stand Still by Steven Furtick. When the book was presented to me my eyes skimmed the title and below were these profound words, 'What Happens When You Dare to Ask God For The Impossible.' These words immediately tugged at my heart and invoked joyful and expectant emotions. |
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Ami Evans, LPC-I: Posted on Friday, December 02, 2011 10:32 AM
At Christmas time we think about the birth of our Savior and King. When we reflect on His entrance to the world we realize it was not grand. He was born out in the cold, in a stable where animals live, and his bed was a trough where they eat their food. Our worldview expects kings or leaders to live in royalty surrounded by servants waiting on them day and night, with all their needs met. However, our King Jesus shows a very different example of leadership. His followers were so concerned with and competed to be first and Jesus said to them, |
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Ami Evans, LPC-I: Posted on Thursday, December 01, 2011 10:37 AM
We have begun the Christmas season, a time to reflect on the history and the Good News of the birth of our Savior Jesus. Christians and most people will spend the next few weeks discussing the story of Jesus' birth and celebrating this event. I was reading the story about Joseph finding out his fiance Mary was pregnant and they had never been with each other. Can you imagine the different emotions who must have experienced? When we are given a report of someone we care about deeply doing something that hurts us, we immediately think, "what am I going to do? |
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Ami Evans, LPC-I: Posted on Thursday, November 03, 2011 11:57 AM
Car maintenance requires routine maintenance or a tune-up. If we are not responsible to do this, it can cause much larger problems with the car that can cost more frustration and money. Marriage is like a car and it requires the same maintenance. It is good to meet with a pastor or counselor regularly to gauge the health of the marriage and identify any minor issues that may be keeping your marriage driving to the fullest potential. It is preventative for a breakdown or crisis that it more difficult to recover from. |
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Ami Evans, LPC-I: Posted on Friday, October 28, 2011 11:06 AM
Did you grow up in an environment with "Life" words that gave you wind beneath your wings? You were surrounded with encouragement, affirmation, and people embraced your uniqueness. Or was your experience the opposite and you had the wind knocked out of you through "Death" words? You were reprimanded for your differences, criticized, and told you were a failure or not good enough, either directly or indirectly. Both experiences develop your view of the world, circumstances, people, and God. |
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Ami Evans, LPC-I: Posted on Thursday, October 13, 2011 4:00 PM
Marriage must have boundary lines to protect the intimacy and
security in the relationship. These lines can get blurred when there is
conflict. Sometimes couples in conflict allow "outsiders"inside the
boundary lines. These "outsiders" are friends, family, co-workers,
strangers, which may or may not be a great support. I want to discuss a
couple of issues when you share with others the intimate details in your
marriage.
The first one is your attitude shifts. Have
you ever been out with your friends and one of them complains about
their spouse? |
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Ami Evans, LPC-I: Posted on Thursday, October 13, 2011 2:44 PM
In my counseling practice I see people that feel inferior and
defeated in a destructive relationship pattern and have allowed this
relationship to define them. When you give someone that power to define
you, you give them the power to control you. All of us at some point in
our life has had a Parent, Spouse, Friend, Spouse's ex, or a Boss that
use guilt and manipulation to control the circumstances (you). You may
feel helpless and hopeless about the destructive dance you are in.
If you want to be free from this harmful person in your life, you have to make the choice to take control of you. |
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Ami Evans, LPC-I: Posted on Thursday, October 13, 2011 2:41 PM
Stepmoms, do you get frustrated and maybe even angry with the
overbearing ex-wife in-law you inherited when you married your husband?
We cannot be Wise Wives and Successful Stepmoms without God's strength,
wisdom and empowerment in our families and lives. My relationship with
God grew leaps and bounds when I married my husband; I realized how much
I NEED Him and were on my knees more.
My focus is the
communication in the step/blended family unit. Who should communicate
with your ex-wife in-law about scheduling, parenting issues/decisions,
child support and other financial needs? |
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Ami Evans, LPC-I: Posted on Thursday, October 13, 2011 2:37 PM
I had an interesting conversation with a dear friend of mine; we went
to school together and our experience was similar. We were exploring
the topic of teenage girls and the tendency for their identity to become
entangled in boys. These are young ladies that are beautiful inside and
out, have passion for other things, may be active and find acceptance
in many different activities. It seems they have a void in their heart
that they desperately try to fill. This is a vulnerable and idealistic
period. |
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