I had an interesting conversation with a dear friend of mine; we went
to school together and our experience was similar. We were exploring
the topic of teenage girls and the tendency for their identity to become
entangled in boys. These are young ladies that are beautiful inside and
out, have passion for other things, may be active and find acceptance
in many different activities. It seems they have a void in their heart
that they desperately try to fill. This is a vulnerable and idealistic
period. They are developing into women, their bodies are changing,
hormones are going crazy, and expectations for finding love are so
important. A young girl meets a boy at the age of 15 or
16 that seems crazy about her, does and says all the right things;
treats her like a princess. He becomes everything to her and all she
thinks about. Growing up in my school, there were these types of
relationships that progressed toward marriage. The problem with these
"high school sweetheart" relationships is women tend to deny themselves
and defer to the boys they have emotionally attached to (which is a
different blog on how this happens). What I'm saying is, they disregard
their dreams, goals, values, relationships, and desires to seek to
please him. The focus becomes about his self actualization. Then, she
feels lost and lonely in another's identity, which leads to further
problems. It is so important for those of you with
daughters to help them develop a healthy/whole identity. The father is a
key role in the child rearing years. Girls needs to know and have
confidence that her daddy loves her, she is worthy to be loved and worth
fighting for. This is why we love hero type fairy tales when the prince
fights for and saves the princes from evil. It is an innate longing for
someone to fight for us. Sadly, not all fathers fulfill this desire. I
have learned through my own pain that our heavenly Father is the only
one that can fulfill these needs. He created us and planted them in us,
so that He could. So, I believe it is critical that each and every
daughter be encouraged and taught what God's Word imparts about who she
is in Him. There is a sense of confidence and freedom from knowing this
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