Sex is a popular topic of today. You cannot go a day without being influenced with sexual content. There is something powerful and mysterious about sex. I chose to watch a movie recently, called Friends with Benefits. I see so many people in my practice that are tied to others currently and/or from their past through premarital, extramarital, and sexual abuse experiences. I have a strong conviction to help these individuals understand their sexuality and the deception surrounding them. Though this movie goes against my belief system I decided I needed to understand the mindset and ramifications of the culture that believes casual, meaningless sex is ok. The movie is about 2 wounded strangers meeting after recently ending relationships and decide on an arrangement to exchange sexual pleasure with no relationship strings attached (Yea right!). God the creator of sex made our bodies responsive to monogamy. He created a chemical you probably heard of before, oxytocin (vasopressin in males). This chemical has the ability to bond us. It is released during breast feeding and during sexual intercourse. God intends for a mother and child and husband and wife to experience this type of bond. There is such a powerful binding to that person that is not meant to be broken. Two souls become tied together or one. In this particular movie, this truth becomes obvious. Their connection became more than just a physical, but an emotional and spiritual one. Sex binds our bodies, souls, and spirits to another. Like in the movie, when there is a break in the relationship, there is a powerful tie that is not easily broken. The two people become overwhelmed with emotions because there is a physical, emotional, and spiritual tearing apart from that person. The consequences are guilt, shame, confusion, anger, and depression. God in His love for us expects us to experience this type of bond with 1 person, so that we do not go through the devastation when we are torn apart from someone. There is hope and healing if you have been tied to another person in this way. Knowing how your body was designed for sex and the consequences is critical for avoiding temptation. Confessing to God and someone helps free you. Secrets only breed shame which harms us and our relationships. Forgiveness for ourselves and the people you bind yourselves to heals us. And finally prayer to break any unhealthy ties can break this bond. Ask God to show you the lies you believe about yourself and sex. God is the author and manual owner of sex. He has established some boundaries for our protection, not to be punitive. We must understand our bodies by his manual and not what the world's manual illustrates. |
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