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Ami Evans: Posted on Wednesday, April 04, 2012 10:18 AM
The issue of marital separation causes tension in the Christan community. I want to share some points to consider if your contemplating this or you know someone who is. I have read and researched this topic comprehensively and I strongly recommend you do the same before heading down the path of separation or before judging someone who is. It is critical that you understand what the scriptures say in their context. Especially, if you come from either extremes of thinking, the rigid, judgmental mindset that you should never separate no matter what or God will punish you for he hates divorce; or the other perspective that you have free reign to do, because we are covered by grace and God forgives. |
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Ami Evans: Posted on Tuesday, March 27, 2012 1:11 PM
Affairs are a large epidemic in our culture. Men and women are participating in them out of a need for satisfaction or happiness. There are many causes and types of affairs. Someone may get involved in an affair because of feelings of loneliness and a longing for deep emotional connection. They could be fearful of that kind of deep connection and want to diffuse with their spouse by having a sexual fling. It could be the symptom of an addictive pattern caused by a family of origin conflict. I want to discuss the affair that occurs when there is a separation or pending divorce. |
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Ami Evans: Posted on Thursday, March 08, 2012 2:57 PM
I understand as women we live hectic schedules. We wake up at the crack of dawn to facilitate sending our husbands and children to work and school. Some of us spend our days working inside the home and others outside. We are volunteers/ministers in our church, PTA, and other organizations. The activity seems to be constant and never ending. There is dinner to prepare, homework to assist with, laundry, emails to return, and so on. The point is we live fast paced, busy, and exhausting lives. I just described all the other people we serve and help. |
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Ami Evans, LPC-I: Posted on Thursday, November 03, 2011 11:57 AM
Car maintenance requires routine maintenance or a tune-up. If we are not responsible to do this, it can cause much larger problems with the car that can cost more frustration and money. Marriage is like a car and it requires the same maintenance. It is good to meet with a pastor or counselor regularly to gauge the health of the marriage and identify any minor issues that may be keeping your marriage driving to the fullest potential. It is preventative for a breakdown or crisis that it more difficult to recover from. |
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Ami Evans, LPC-I: Posted on Thursday, October 13, 2011 4:00 PM
Marriage must have boundary lines to protect the intimacy and
security in the relationship. These lines can get blurred when there is
conflict. Sometimes couples in conflict allow "outsiders"inside the
boundary lines. These "outsiders" are friends, family, co-workers,
strangers, which may or may not be a great support. I want to discuss a
couple of issues when you share with others the intimate details in your
marriage.
The first one is your attitude shifts. Have
you ever been out with your friends and one of them complains about
their spouse? |
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